Hey fellow readers:
I apologize that I have not been updating my blog as often as I want to but, ironically and honestly, I haven’t had the motivation to do so. Actually, my motivation has been focused towards finding a job and hopefully jump-starting my life into a reality of “success.” It’s definitely been a rigorous journey for me lately with constant mental and emotional stress over life decision-making, putting in countless hours to meet up with my connections and networking my ass off, changing my cover letters and resume numerous times until I feel they are perfect, and taking extra steps to shine from the rest of the thousands of job applicants out there only to come home to rejection e-mails and letters. At times, I just feel like running away and giving up, and I’m only just starting to taste the bitterness of reality that the world is colder than it really seems with the truth that it is only going to get colder from here on out. But I have not given up, and I have not lost hope to find that light that will give me warmth because I have delved deep within me to find the fire within myself to carry on and far exceed my expectations of what I can do. I believe that if I continue what I am doing right now, constantly moving forward and getting up right after I fall, I know these steps will add up and eventually lead me to where I want to be.
However, it was definitely much of a struggle for me to find that spark to drive me to work towards my goals, but I believe it is the first step you have to take if you want to survive this dog-eat-dog world and be “successful.” And so, I would like to share my experiences with you on how I found my intrinsic motivation in hopes that it would help you, a fellow neighbor, to reach your goals.
The primary obstacle I had to overcome used to be my greatest enemy of all–myself. If you think about it, you’re with yourself 100% of the time, you probably have 70% of your conversations with yourself, and I would assume that most of your recent arguments and biggest battles you’ve had are with yourself. With that said, I realized that it is one’s mental and emotional struggles that are most likely the biggest reasons why one cannot reach his/her goals in the first place. I also realized that doing shit is easy, but convincing yourself to do shit is almost as difficult as convincing a mathematician that 1 + 1 = 3 because most of the time you underestimate yourself and, as a result, you limit the potential from what you could have accomplished and the amount of growth you could have gained from it. I could have stood here and preach about all the crap in the world of how I was going to do this and that, and make a list of things of what I was going to accomplish in my life, but essentially, if I did not have the courage to stand up to myself–to ignore all the excuses and arguments I had to make, and give up my pride to hold myself accountable for what I have set myself to do then I’d probably end up sitting on my couch wasting my precious time wallowing and thinking about how much of a failure I am and telling myself I can’t do it. You need to have faith, but most of all, you need to have the courage to have faith and trust in yourself that you are able to do what you want to do.
In addition, there will also be times where people may say “to think before you act” because you may make the wrong decision, but in essence that is just common sense. However, in most cases, people interpret that quote literally and end up digging themselves a giant crater because they have spent too much time thinking about what could happen instead of making it happen that by the time that they do decide to act, the moment of opportunity is already lost. Take my word for it because there have been a lot of opportunities that I could have pursued and I would have probably found a job by now, but because I spent my time thinking and started to list out all the cons… I eventually talked myself out of it and I will probably never see an opportunity like that again. So I would just like to tell you that, yes, your future is important and, I know that you do not want to be a failure in the future, but like I said before, you need to also make decisions for your present and go for things that may not be very appealing to you, but may lead to something appealing in the future. Mistakes are going to happen no doubt, whether you try to avoid them or not, but you cannot spend most of your precious time looking into the future because first of all, you do not know what is going to happen in the future unless you really are a psychic.
So that comes to another obstacle I always encounter, which is “fear.” I understand that people want to be comfortable, and I personally want to feel comfortable too. But you cannot grow in a bubble, and you cannot fly if you’re going to just stay at your nest. If you want to reach your goals, then you have to do whatever it takes to reach it and you need to also convince yourself that you want it so bad that you will die if you don’t get it. That means you need to get your ass out of that shell and take those chances for the sake of survival. At first, you may think it’s stupid to take those chances and make those decisions, but the only decisions that are stupid are the ones you did not make. Of course that does not apply to things you know would harm yourself or put yourself in danger (for example, drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, violence, doing a meaningless dare, etc.), but it does apply to those things that you believe will help you grow and eventually reach your goals.
Lastly, a third obstacle I would also like to share is finding room for more intrinsic motivations rather than extrinsic motivations. Extrinsic motivations does not only apply to things like money, appearance, and increased reputation, but also people such as family, friends, and the general population. Most of the time, we’d like to say we are doing things for other people, and I believe that it is great and all, but what’s the point of doing it for other people if you’re not also doing it for yourself. People may think you are selfish or greedy, but it’s only selfish and greedy if that is your intent. Otherwise, you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of someone else. I didn’t just go through the hell of four years in nursing school just for my parents and because I was obligated to do so, I mean that was part of it. However, I did it mainly because I wanted to become a nurse and I wanted to kick ass as a nurse. My point is that if your heart isn’t into something then the first thing you should do is re-evaluate yourself and reflect on “why?” Ask yourself questions to answer that “why?” such as “why am I doing this?” “what do I want to get out of this experience?” and “why is this important to me?” This is important because you are not only learning about yourself, but finding the trigger that will set you off to do something. If you cannot find out why you are doing it, and figure that you are just doing it just to do it or for something else like money or for someone else, then you are like a car running on no gas. If you find that passion, then I have no doubt that you will reach your goals and become successful because it will be something that makes you happy and something you enjoy doing.
To bring it all together, just remember these three things you need to overcome to find motivation and reach your goals, and reflect on what you need to do and what you need to figure out. You need to overcome yourself, your fears, and the external pressures around you to find out what made you decide to make this goal for yourself. If you take this step to do this, I believe you’ll be well on your way to grow and succeed, and there will be nothing or no one that can stop you, but yourself. Just remember if you ever get stuck and ever feel like giving up… keep on reflecting and re-evaluating your current nature, and remind yourself of what kind of person you can be and the rewards of your efforts if you accomplish your goals.
Start finding some inspiration and motivation, and succeed in whatever you choose to do! Life’s too short to everything that you need to do so you have to do whatever you can! Good luck!